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"By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher" - Socrates

True, there are a lot of jokes out there on the web and beyond, how women can make their men miserable. However, since I belong to the opposite sex, let me offer a woman’s point of view to how men and women fail to communicate well. In other words, a fresh approach to problem solving of men and women’s miscommunications.

Understanding Guy talk:

A wise man sat with his grandson for a talk about human nature.
The grandfather then told his grandson, that within people exist 2 wolves that have a never-ending inner battle between them.
The first wolf is the wolf of evil, anger, pain, frustration, low self-esteem and jealousy.
The second wolf is the wolf of love, compassion, acceptance, kindness, happiness, hope, support and affection.
The grandson asked his grandfather: ”Which wolf wins in this war?” and the grandfather’s answer was: “The wolf that you feed”.

After this bit of wisdom metaphor, I ask that you take a second look on your relationship with the other half. The mechanism in which you can gain a successful and long lasting relationship cannot simply rely on love alone. Here are some ideas on how to cope with couple’s difficulties, towards a healthier relationship:

Achieving a long lasting friendship.

Fear is a feeling that often runs our lives. When it comes to love, it tends to keep us from living our lives to the fullest. Handling fear rationally and controlling it is possible when you are willing to work on it and are motivated in controlling it, instead of fear controlling you.

The first thing you need to do is take the time to get to know your fears. At large, people are aware of the fears they hold; yet don’t truly get to know them. Make time to sit down and interview your own fear. Ask yourself: What is it you fear, what is the source of the fear, and why do you fear it? These are important questions to answer so as to better understand your fears, and start brainstorming about methods that will work best for you.

Start with acknowledging what the fear really is. For instance, if you fear relationship failure, what is the origin of this fear? There is a cause for everything, so if you feel confused, keep looking inside yourself until you solve the puzzle. Understanding your fears implies that you are able to find solutions to it- a step in the right direction.

When handling your fears, research suggests to go back in time to those relationships and re-live what went wrong. You will see that all past situations were different and handled in a different way. This tells you that no one is the same and there is no perfect relationship. Realizing this will help you better understand that escape is not the right answer. Dealing with and accepting the relationship’s imperfection while working on ways to better things between the two of you is the place to start.

Going to a psychologist has become a popular activity in our modern hectic lifestyle. When the individuality is a focus of our life, in any point of time you are in the stages of life you may become a bit confused about what to expect from your life. When you are not quite sure what your next step should be, consulting a professional cannot be a bad move. Finding life’s meaning or one’s purpose is never an easy task, especially if you have just been through a personal crisis such as break-up, divorce or loss of someone close to you.

The way to make it out of the emotional darkness you may be experiencing is letting a well-educated, experienced psychologist guide your way and shed some light on what you are feeling. At times the psychologist helps you dig deep inside to see that you may have the answer to your problems but are not aware of the answer till you talk it out with someone. Also, revealing yourself to a psychologist online helps you keep your anonymity and privacy well above any other means of getting therapy - for your identity is kept a secret. In muchadvice.com you can find such professional discrete online help. Even if you just went through an abortion or a miscarriage and don’t have a female companion that can relate to your emotional state, professional psychologist can help save you from your troubled self. Nothing to be embarrassed about since people go through hard times in life and need to cope with their inner battles.

Moreover, difficulties in letting go of that special someone can be a little less difficult when therapy sessions keep you more stable during your emotional rollercoaster.

In my opinion, as an experienced woman that saw and went through difficulties in life’s various matters, healing yourself with the help of a psychologist is a good move on your part. The mind needs to stay healthy and focused on your goals and dreams in life. A professional psychologist just might help show you the way back to a well balanced lifestyle.

Research the Internet for a good psychologist available online. Especially if you do not wish to conduct a face-to-face meeting with a local psychologist - the internet offers the up most discrete solution. Not to mention that the internet is always there and you can always ask a question rather than wait for a therapist’s session scheduled only in a week’s time.

Helping yourself is never easy, but it is worth your while because it is your life and mental health you are dealing with. When you are feeling very troubled, remember that psychologist are there for you to try them out. Good luck!

by Michelle Faucet, MSW
The question how to cope and survive a spouse's affair troubles many marriages. After dealing with marital issues and conflicts in my work, I am certain that unfaithfulness is the absolute painful experience that can happen in a marriage. The grim reality of having experienced any form of physical abuse, sexual abuse of children, and infidelity have consistently shown in studies of relationships that a spouse's unfaithfulness was the number one worst kind. To be convinced of infidelity's devastating results, you have to go through it only once.

Even so, records show that more than 50 percent of spouses have suffered infidelity. In other words, a spouse is likely to suffer the greatest marital pain possible at some time point. It's no surprise that this issue is so common the reason for marital problems of survival after unfaithfulness.

By Michelle Faucet, MSW
Last night my grandmother told me something over the phone I never knew of: My grandparents annual love tradition. Every anniversary they had herring fish and oven baked potatoes for dinner. This was considered a rare delicacy during world war two, in which they were newly weds running away from the Germans in Russia.

By Michelle Faucet, MSW
A week ago I witnessed a young married man going out of a restaurant in New Jersey with a stone- face expression. Not far behind him was a woman, his wife most likely, who came storming out of the same restaurant, grabbing him in the hand. She shouted out: “come back inside right now and treat me nicely!”

The woman’s plead which fell on deaf ears is a pattern in which many marriages find themselves when the marital problems are reaching higher levels of frustration. While the woman may want to talk it through, the man stays indifferent and wants to get away. He complains about her unreasonable demands and outbursts to anyone who wishes to hear his side, while she says he never pays her attentions and their marital problems make no difference to him.